Friday, February 26, 2010

My Sweet girlfriend Lorilee gave me a link to a blog she thought i would like. I think it's called "enjoying the small and Simple things". I'll have to get the link on my blog because I so relate to this cute mom on every level. The first post I read of hers was how she just hated the poem she got about Holland. Now all of us Mom's who have children with special needs knows about this poem. Some of you take it and embrace it, and others of you relate it to the very day that you got the news of your new little one. I am one of the moms who did not love it. Although i know it means all good things,the day i read it was probably one of the worste days of my life. Now what came of that day turned out to be one of the BEST things in my life. But I will forever relate this poem to My worst day!
Here's the poem.... "Welcome To Holland"

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland!

AS I continued reading this blog I read a post that had this poem in it. She got it from someone who left a comment on her blog.( I think that everyone should always leave comments because they never know how they may help someone with their words...I am trying to make sure I do that now). Now, I love this. I am going to put it all over my house. It is so important to enjoy the days that are quiet and relaxing. Because you never know when the next one will come. Right now My "normal" days are very far and few inbetween, but I do appreciate them when they come. I swear this poem was written just for me. Today my husband let me sleep until I woke up on my own....Can you believe I slept until noon? When I came down stairs he said "Feel Better"? He knew that I needed that. I LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!!
We both have been pretty stressed latley with this whole JOB thing. Yes we are again facing the terribleness(Not sure if that's a word) of the economy again. His new Company Is doing awful...But that's a whole other story. Needless to say, YES we are again looking for another job. But, alot of you out there know exactly how this feels right. Things will get better again I know they will. We Just have to enjoy those "Normal" days when they come right?


"Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day, I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and want, more than all the world, your return."


Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Another great Quote that gives me perspective!

"The challenges you face, the growth experiences you encounter, are intended to be temporary scenes played out on the stage of a life of continuing peace and happiness. Sadness, heartache, and disappointment are events in life. It is not intended that they be the substance of life. I do not minimize how hard some of these events can be. When the lesson you are to learn is very important, trials can extend over a long period of time, but they should not be allowed to become the confining focus of everything you do. Your life can and should be wondrously rewarding. It is your understanding and application of the laws of God that will give your life glorious purpose as you ascend and conquer the difficulties of life. That perspective keeps challenges confined to their proper place--stepping-stones to further growth and attainment."

By: Richard G. Scott

I post these quotes because they truly help me put things into perspective. I Joke and say that I can't handle anymore that comes my way...that my family has had enough crud throwm at as. But, I would be a fool If I didn't notice all the tender mercies that come from our trials. I know that I will always have trials, that's what makes us grow. I just hope that I will always be strong enough to "Get back up when I fall"!

Monday, February 15, 2010

Quotes that give me strength

"Life's journey is not traveled on a freeway devoid of obstacles, pitfalls, and snares. Rather, it is a pathway marked by forks and turnings. Decisions are constantly before us. To make them wisely, courage is needed: the courage to say, 'No,' the courage to say, 'Yes,' Decisions do determine destiny. The call for courage comes constantly to each of us. It has ever been so, and so shall it ever be."
- Thomas S. Monson

Saturday, February 13, 2010

That's Enough

I think i need to change my blog description of our family from "Bring it on" to "That's Enough Thankyou very much", because I think i am being taken way to literally!!!!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

bladder/kidney update....chicken pox and 14 years!

What a crazy few weeks we have had at our house! We have been fairly healthy around here as of late, but just as you start thinking that....the bombs start dropping! We were first greeted with the lovely stomach flu (my personal favorite)! The only ones victim to that was Spencer, Emily and I. I was glad the rest of the gang got away from it.Then, we had the much anticipated ultra sounds and scans on Christopher's Bladder and Kidney's. I always get so nervous at the appointments, but as my brother(a pediatrician) recently told one of my sister's "It's time to put your big girl pants on and deal with it"!That was so funny to me...Love him. But, I think my big girl pants have been permanantly fastened on for quite some time now.It's just the way it has to be.
Everything went really well with his Dr.s appt..Although it shows his right kidney is still swollen and he is still showing to have reflex on that has improved!!!! The tech doing the scans was taking forever, because to her everything looked abnormal. But, When looking at the comparisons with the Dr. From 3 months ago, they look so much better. So we walked out of there with big smile's on our faces. That was a good day.
Then, another bomb drops!!!! I was noticing some bumps on Christopher, One on his Head and one on his tummy. I just watched them to see how they changed, and the next morning I took off his jammies and they were everywhere! I took him to the Dr.s and he has Chicken Pox!!! OOH MY GOODNESS!!!!!!!But, Remember my big girl pants are on so I am taking a deep breath and I am dealing with it rather calmly i should say.They have him on antibiotics, so that should help lessen the severity of it. What a stud he is I tell you, He is just as happy as can be even though i know he must be miserable.

On top of all of this today Robert and I celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary. I don't know how much celebrating we will be doing with all the stuff going on at home! But, as I look back on these last 14 years, I think MAN We have really been through alot together.But, We are such a great team, that when trials come our way we have been able to meet them head on together. I am so grateful for my sweet husband. He is truly the best there is, and he just keeps getting better and better!